Mawadah concept because basically it is loved because of its shortcomings and not loved because of its advantages or mahabbah. Because mahabbah it only to almighty Allah subhanahu wata'ala perfect and has no shortage.
For husbands, this is a very large mandate. Because in a family, the husband is the responsible leader to his wife and children so that they all become experts heaven.
Prophet shollallohu 'alaihi wa sallam said: "Fear Allah in leading the wife-wives, because they are a mandate that is with you, he who does not commanded to pray for his wife and did not teach religion to him, then he has betrayed Allah and His Messenger. "
A husband whose pious, will always remember the words of the Prophet shollallohu 'alaihi wa sallam,
"The best of you is the best for his wife, and I are the best of you to my wife." (Reported by al-Tirmidhi)
Therefore, he will always try to emulate the Prophet shollallohu 'alaihi wa sallam, in being kind to his wife, and always appreciate. Good attitude of the husband against his wife, will foster a sense of love and trust my wife to her husband that her husband is a person of trust. With so was reached ideals mawadah warahmah harmonious family.
Here are 10 tips for husbands to wives getting more love and affection, among them:
1. Provide Call Mesra And her favorite
A husband who loves and loves his wife, would not hesitate to express affection, the wife calling using a call "love", or call her favorite. It is, as has been exemplified by the Prophet shallallohu 'alaihi wa sallam, who is happy memangil Mother of the Faithful radhiyallohu Aisha' anha to call "Humaira" (whose cheeks rosy). Calls such as "Adina" or "sister" course, God willing, is enough to make a wife happy.
2. Mempergaulinya With Meek
The husband who appreciates and loves his wife, will try to associate her with gentleness, both in attitude and speech. He will try to stay away loud and rude attitude toward his wife. If she is guilty or let him down, he would advise him gently and politely. Not with insults, yelling, and even a slap in the face.
3. Offers Smiles (Always Shows Face Ceria)
Always showing a cheerful countenance in the presence of his wife, also a token of appreciation husband against his wife. Wife who always cheer and a smile on his face, it would be easier to feel happiness. By contrast, if the husband has always shown a frown. The wife will feel awkward and unhappy, because he felt her husband could never be happy with him.
In this case the husband must be very clever to put the problem. There is a problem in the office or wherever should not be taken to the house. So stay with a cheerful countenance, although a lot of problems out there. Well, when the atmosphere was quiet, ask his wife to discuss the problem at hand.
4. Giving Praise
Giving praise to his wife, also a token of appreciation husband. Although it looks trivial, but a sincere compliment from a husband can cause psychological effects are enormous for a wife. For example, increase confidence, boost the spirit, and certainly made her flowery full of happy. Basically, every woman happy when praised, moreover, was praised by the different parts of the heart of his beloved.
5. Giving Gifts
The prize is a messenger of love, as well as being one form of recognition husband to wife. Would be more impressive if the gift is given without prior notice so that it becomes a happy surprise.
6. Helping Wife Takes Care Home
Household chores are almost endless. Good husband, will try to ease the burden of his wife in the care of the household. For example helped his wife washing, drying clothes, clean and semisalnya. Thus a wife would feel more understood and appreciated by her husband.
7. Help Educate Children Wife
Choice can also be realized with the husband helping his wife take care of the child. Do various chores at the same time taking care of the child, certainly very busy and draining. Especially for those whose children are still toddlers (under three years), let alone more than one. When the husband wants to help with child care, meaning he has brought relief to his wife, and made it quieter in solving various kinds of homework.
8. Pay attention to health
The husband who appreciates his wife, would be very concerned about the health of his wife. When looking at his wife's illness, he will immediately try to find a cure. He would be more attentive to his wife, and asked his wife to rest more.
9. Devoted to his parents
Devoted to the wife's parents or in-laws, also a form of tribute to her husband. The husband Bakti will beatify his wife and his parents. One way could be to establish communication via telephone at least 1 month, or a visit to their home at least 1 year.
10. Establish Silaturrahim With Her relatives.
Choice husband against his wife, also be demonstrated by establishing silaturrahim with relatives of the wife, and in doing good to them. By recognizing kin, husband can find out what is the most favored of his wife, so that could be a reference to his wife a surprise gift.